When Bad Theology Makes Abuse Easier

When Bad Theology Makes Abuse Easier

When Bad Theology Makes Abuse EasierKristen Neighbarger
Published on: 16/09/2026

How bad theology can shift responsibility, enable abuse, protect harmful systems, and keep people trapped in cycles of silence, fear, and endurance.

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Why Did This Feel So Familiar?

Why Did This Feel So Familiar?

Why Did This Feel So Familiar?Kristen Neighbarger
Published on: 09/09/2026

Why did Death of a Pastor’s Wife feel so familiar to so many exvangelicals? A reflection on harmful theology, charismatic leadership, church accountability, and the systems that allow spiritual abuse to flourish.

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Paying Attention to the Fruit

Paying Attention to the Fruit

Paying Attention to the FruitKristen Neighbarger
Published on: 01/07/2026

After church hurt, how do you navigate relationships with the people who stayed? Learn how Jesus' teaching on fruit offers wisdom for discerning safe, healthy relationships.

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Deconstruction is not Destruction

Deconstruction is not Destruction

Deconstruction is not DestructionKristen Neighbarger
Published on: 16/06/2026

Many people confuse deconstruction with destruction, but they're not the same thing. Through a childhood lesson in the kitchen and a reflection on faith, church hurt, and belonging, this article explores why asking hard questions.

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